"Good news कब दे रहे हो ?" Ever since I got married every aunty, sister, mavshi, aatya, bua, fufi, and even some men asked me this question hundreds of times. Some even asked this while standing for the photo during our reception. Some asked this so many times that i was tempted to reply with an insult, but the "angel" in me stopped me from doing so. Instead i gave answers like, "abhi amazon pe order kiya hain, delivery nahi hua ab tak" or "main toh last 10 saal se pregnant hoon" or "Panch-varshik yojna hain (5 year plan)"
After our plethora of medical treatments and doctor shifting, we decided that our IVF treatment should be a secret. Even our parents should not know. It was quite difficult since aaba and Dah-aaji stayed on the first floor of the same building and their maid Sarita was a spy better than the RAW, IB, FBI and CIA put together. We had to think about new excuses every time we went for our consulation or your mother's injections. Making up stories like 'Going to mall, going to friend's home for lunch, going to movie, etc' took us back to our college days' relation with our parents. Futhermore, your mother also had some guilt episodes and had some cravings about talking about the treatment with her parents or her sisters. But, thanks to some secrecy, some innovative excuses no one knew about our treatment.
And then.... We got the news.
We wanted to shout our lungs out, say it aloud to the whole world. But, it was just a positive test and we needed some more confirmation. The first sonography took place on 7th June. It was time. Time for the close relatives to know.
'How to reveal' was a major matter of debate between your mother and me. I was always the more creative one, more adventurous, more out of the box. Your mother was the conservative one, more subtle, more 'no tamasha' kinda attitude.
The 'reveal' in front of aaba, dah-aaji and aatu was a complete anti-climax. I wanted to surprise them. It happened the same day as your 1st sonography. Created a story about satyanarayan pooja at my place in september, but your mother wont be able to do the pooja. When they ask the reason, i was going to tell them, it will be her 4th month of pregnancy. I held the camera to capture their reactions. FffuuuSSSS. There were absolutely no reactions. It was like lighting up a fire cracker, waiting in anticipation and it sounding like a damp squib. The whole surprise was a complete fiasco. Yes, there was no surprise on any face, but the happiness on it was clearly visible. They had behaved responsibly throughout the last 8 years when the whole world asked about a grandchild. Never asked us uncomfortable questions or never gave a snide remark to your mother. Now, they had their wish. Gratification was obvious.
8th June is 'Tatya's' death anniversary (Aajoba's father). Everyone gathers at Vagdevi. Your mother normally doesn't go, but we thought it would be an ideal day for the 'reveal'. The whole journey from dahisar to mahim was nothing but planning how to do it. I had a plan in mind and decided to go along with it. Aajoba, Mah-aaji, Kakoja, Priya mavshi, Swapna mavshi were present at Vagdevi. The plan was in motion and had to be executed before lunch.
I told all of them that i wanted a 'Kelekar family' video. During the video they had to say aloud some things after me and once they were in a flow, i said 'Pooja pregnant aahe'. BULLSEYE. Surprise, Shock, Disbelief, Excitement, Joy, Speechless and then Shouts, Cheers, Laughters, Tears, Hugs. The video tells it all.
( I have edited it. There is a special performance by Priya mavshi in the latter part of the original video. Will love to show you that).
We kept the news secret from other relatives till 3 months. I had plans about a Vengsarkar family reveal during Ganpati. But your Aaba's excitment couldn't keep it hush. After the chor-oti, Dah-aaji called her sisters to give the news, though I am very sure that she had done it much before. Your mother gave the good news to spandan dada, sanveda tai and sannah tai, on the day of spandan's birthday. They were quite surprised ( or if u trust my instincts, they acted quite surprised )
Aajoba and Mah-aaji gave their own version of surprise to Mangal aaji and Shaila aaji and their families. We also did a surprise reveal to Vidyadhar aajoba and Shubhangi aaji when they visited Vagdevi.
Your mother had to tell the news to her seniors (Nick and Diane) in school and to her friend Shamal and her 'Banana Leaf'. But she kept it a secret for along time from other colleagues, especially 2 of the most भोचक ones. When the news finally came out, it spread like wildfire and your mother will never be able to forget the reaction of the students, who were happy about the pregnancy but sad that she wont be teaching them in the next semester.
Your first smile, first teeth, first food, first words, first walk, first ganpati, first diwali, first birthday, first day of school, first result , first bat-ball, first cycle, first crush,........everything will be news. Photos will be clicked, Videos will be shared. It will be put on Whattsapp and Facebook (i hope not). But 'THE NEWS' was the best one we ever shared. Best one we will ever share, till you share 'the news' with us.
After our plethora of medical treatments and doctor shifting, we decided that our IVF treatment should be a secret. Even our parents should not know. It was quite difficult since aaba and Dah-aaji stayed on the first floor of the same building and their maid Sarita was a spy better than the RAW, IB, FBI and CIA put together. We had to think about new excuses every time we went for our consulation or your mother's injections. Making up stories like 'Going to mall, going to friend's home for lunch, going to movie, etc' took us back to our college days' relation with our parents. Futhermore, your mother also had some guilt episodes and had some cravings about talking about the treatment with her parents or her sisters. But, thanks to some secrecy, some innovative excuses no one knew about our treatment.
And then.... We got the news.
We wanted to shout our lungs out, say it aloud to the whole world. But, it was just a positive test and we needed some more confirmation. The first sonography took place on 7th June. It was time. Time for the close relatives to know.
'How to reveal' was a major matter of debate between your mother and me. I was always the more creative one, more adventurous, more out of the box. Your mother was the conservative one, more subtle, more 'no tamasha' kinda attitude.
The 'reveal' in front of aaba, dah-aaji and aatu was a complete anti-climax. I wanted to surprise them. It happened the same day as your 1st sonography. Created a story about satyanarayan pooja at my place in september, but your mother wont be able to do the pooja. When they ask the reason, i was going to tell them, it will be her 4th month of pregnancy. I held the camera to capture their reactions. FffuuuSSSS. There were absolutely no reactions. It was like lighting up a fire cracker, waiting in anticipation and it sounding like a damp squib. The whole surprise was a complete fiasco. Yes, there was no surprise on any face, but the happiness on it was clearly visible. They had behaved responsibly throughout the last 8 years when the whole world asked about a grandchild. Never asked us uncomfortable questions or never gave a snide remark to your mother. Now, they had their wish. Gratification was obvious.
8th June is 'Tatya's' death anniversary (Aajoba's father). Everyone gathers at Vagdevi. Your mother normally doesn't go, but we thought it would be an ideal day for the 'reveal'. The whole journey from dahisar to mahim was nothing but planning how to do it. I had a plan in mind and decided to go along with it. Aajoba, Mah-aaji, Kakoja, Priya mavshi, Swapna mavshi were present at Vagdevi. The plan was in motion and had to be executed before lunch.
I told all of them that i wanted a 'Kelekar family' video. During the video they had to say aloud some things after me and once they were in a flow, i said 'Pooja pregnant aahe'. BULLSEYE. Surprise, Shock, Disbelief, Excitement, Joy, Speechless and then Shouts, Cheers, Laughters, Tears, Hugs. The video tells it all.
( I have edited it. There is a special performance by Priya mavshi in the latter part of the original video. Will love to show you that).
We kept the news secret from other relatives till 3 months. I had plans about a Vengsarkar family reveal during Ganpati. But your Aaba's excitment couldn't keep it hush. After the chor-oti, Dah-aaji called her sisters to give the news, though I am very sure that she had done it much before. Your mother gave the good news to spandan dada, sanveda tai and sannah tai, on the day of spandan's birthday. They were quite surprised ( or if u trust my instincts, they acted quite surprised )
Aajoba and Mah-aaji gave their own version of surprise to Mangal aaji and Shaila aaji and their families. We also did a surprise reveal to Vidyadhar aajoba and Shubhangi aaji when they visited Vagdevi.
Your mother had to tell the news to her seniors (Nick and Diane) in school and to her friend Shamal and her 'Banana Leaf'. But she kept it a secret for along time from other colleagues, especially 2 of the most भोचक ones. When the news finally came out, it spread like wildfire and your mother will never be able to forget the reaction of the students, who were happy about the pregnancy but sad that she wont be teaching them in the next semester.
Your first smile, first teeth, first food, first words, first walk, first ganpati, first diwali, first birthday, first day of school, first result , first bat-ball, first cycle, first crush,........everything will be news. Photos will be clicked, Videos will be shared. It will be put on Whattsapp and Facebook (i hope not). But 'THE NEWS' was the best one we ever shared. Best one we will ever share, till you share 'the news' with us.
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